How to know if a guy is a bully

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging
Step1 Learn the signs of bullying. Bullies make their victims feel bad about themselves as a way of exerting and maintaining control. Some of the tools they use are: constant criticism, insults, dismissive behavior and at the extreme, threats of violence.
Step2 Watch his behavior over time. Anyone can say a mean thing or insult someone without knowing it on occasion. But a bully does these things on purpose, and he does them over time, until his actions have a pattern. When you see a pattern, you see a bully.
Step3 Evaluate your own actions. Bullies depend on victims whom they can control. You're being a victim if you agree when he criticizes you or insults you, or if you make excuses for his behavior to yourself and to others. Find a counselor who can help you not to be a victim.
Step4 Confront the bully. Have ready specific examples to show how his behavior is hurting you. Tell him that you won't allow him to treat you badly, so if he wants to be in a relationship with you, he needs to start making changes immediately.
Step5 Decide whether to leave the relationship. If physical abuse is present, you must leave the relationship immediately for your own safety. If there is no physical violence, and if he is making honest efforts, like visiting a counselor, and if you see his behavior improve rapidly, you may decide to stay. However, if he refuses to change, you must leave, because it will not get better, and you need to protect yourself.

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